How to Be a Better Person: Finding Meaning and Growth During a Midlife Crisis

Introduction

Midlife crises often leave us questioning our identity, purpose, and direction. While it might feel like you’re stuck in a rut, this phase can actually be a pivotal moment for growth. This blog builds on What We Have Here Is …. An Absolute Middle Life Crisis, offering actionable steps to help you embrace change and become a better person in the process.

Incorporating principles from our Shift Strategy, this guide will empower you to turn challenges into opportunities and take small, meaningful actions toward self-improvement.

Step 1: Embrace Self-Awareness

The first step to becoming a better person is understanding who you are and why you feel the way you do. Ask yourself:

   •   What values matter most to me?

   •   What is holding me back from living my ideal life?

   •   How have my past decisions shaped where I am today?

Use our Shift Strategy framework to map out your thoughts. Start small: write one sentence every morning about how you feel. Over time, this practice can help you identify patterns and areas for growth.

Step 2: Rekindle Your Passions

Midlife is often a time when we lose touch with the hobbies and activities that once brought us joy. Reflect on what used to excite you—whether it’s painting, volunteering, or learning a new skill—and take steps to reintroduce it into your life.

Shift Strategy Tip: Don’t aim for perfection. Start with just 15 minutes a week. Progress builds momentum.

Step 3: Strengthen Your Relationships

Research shows that social connections are key to happiness and fulfillment. Take time to reconnect with family, friends, and colleagues. Focus on being present and showing genuine interest in others.

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Step 4: Adopt a Growth Mindset

A midlife crisis can make you feel stuck, but it’s also an opportunity to embrace change. Focus on what you can control:

   •   Set new personal or professional goals.

   •   Take up a course or training program.

   •   Practice gratitude to reframe your mindset.

Shift Strategy Insight: Break down big goals into manageable actions. Instead of saying, “I’ll write a book,” commit to writing 200 words a day.

Step 5: Take Care of Your Body and Mind

Your physical and mental health are the foundation for personal growth. Build healthy habits, such as:

   •   Exercising regularly.

   •   Eating nutritious meals.

   •   Practicing mindfulness or meditation.

Midlife offers the chance to reset and prioritize yourself. Use our Shift Strategy worksheet to track small daily wins and measure progress.

Step 6: Seek Meaningful Challenges

Purpose fuels personal growth. Volunteer for a cause you care about, mentor someone, or take on a project that stretches your abilities. Overcoming challenges builds resilience and helps you redefine success.

Conclusion

Midlife doesn’t have to be a crisis—it can be a turning point. By using the Shift Strategy to focus on self-awareness, relationships, and personal growth, you can transform uncertainty into opportunity.

Related Blog: If you haven’t already, read What We Have Here Is …. An Absolute Middle Life Crisis for more insights and reflections on navigating this life stage.

Ready to start your journey? Download our free worksheet from the Shift Strategy to take your first step toward becoming the person you’ve always wanted to be.